Mindset Hack


Mindset Hack for today.😉


Choose to look for the positive. Over and over again. Day in and out. What you focus on expands and what you think about you bring about. (Seems simple enough, right?) I know it can be challenging, but daily practice can get it solid for you.


Whatever you're worrying or angry or upset (or other negative emotion) about is causing you stress, sadness, etc. When you recognize this, you must switch your thoughts! Think about something else. That is NOT to say "change your perspective about the topic that is worrying you." It is simply shift your focus to something ELSE, another topic completely. And that's the key. Doesn't it make sense that the thing with which you're worrying isn't going to get sorted out by pondering it over and over? You're going to stay in worry mode which is opposite of your natural state of joy. In order to get back there, you must choose your thoughts. You aren't going to get to peace and joy by ruminating over a worry and stress topic. You have to raise your positive vibration FIRST. To really impact your mindset you need to think about another topic altogether...Something that gives you happiness now or has given you happiness in the past. You can't get there (to a place of peace and joy) by staying here (ruminating over and over again about the thing with which you're concerned). The Universe is listening. It always gives you what you ask for. If you believe it will, and stop worrying about it.


Refocus your energy on positive aspects of people and things. When you focus on the positive, you immediately raise your vibration from the low place of worry, doubt, defeat, concern.


Stay in the Now, focus on the positive aspects and create your happy.

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Wondering how else you can find me or work with me?

  • Check out our private Facebook group for Mamas in Business by clicking here.
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  • Join our Unbusy Me membership to support your daily Spiritual Practice and transform your mindset.

What's the Relationship Between Prayer and Manifestation?

What is manifestation?

I've been considering a lot about the intersection of prayer and manifestation lately. Much of the world considers that there are seemingly only two extremes. (1) Following strict religious protocol falling into a specific category of religion (Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Etc) or (2) Being extremely spiritual, out there and woo woo--meditation, yoga, crystals, manifestation.

BUT, I have found there is certainly an intersection between the concepts of prayer and manifestation.

Let's take the concept of prayer. Most people, initially, on the surface pray for something they want. They pray for "it" because it is absent. Or because it hasn't shown up yet. Basically the same thing. We also pray to protect people and circumstances we are emotionally  invested in. But, are hear prayers out of fear or worry or another low vibration emotion? I wrote in my book, Becoming Unconsumed, about faith and fear not occupying the same space and we know that faith is having confidence in the outcome regardless of what we can "see" in our reality. This is where the concept of manifestation comes in.


Manifestation is a practice derived from one of the 12 Universal Laws, the Law of Attraction. Essentially it is "like attracts like." But the thing is, if we are praying for something to happen or thinking so hard about something happening, because we are so aware of the LACK of it, then we are projecting that LACK. The hitch is to operate from a place of ALREADY having that situation, thing, etc. Acting "as if" it has already come to pass.


Initially, this can be super tough to do. However, once you do it, you are in a more positive state or "vibration", and you begin to attract the outcome you seek. This is the Law of Attraction. Like attracts like. When you are focused on how you feel when you already have that thing/situation/circumstance, the universe can't help but GIVE IT TO YOU. When you are focused on the lack or absence of that thing, you will be attracting more of its ABSENCE. So how can you act as if?

Here are a few simple steps, but more guidance will come in following articles :)

  1. Write down your desire. All details and very clear
  2. Envision the version of you that already has that thing. What are you wearing, what does that situation/day/circumstance look like? How do you feel?
  3. Put into action some steps towards getting that thing/goal/circumstance.
  4. Intentionally detach from the outcome

Trying to control the outcome is tricky and puts you back into that vibration of "lack".


More to come on the topics of Law of Attraction, Manifestation and the intersection with prayer.

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Wondering how else you can find me or work with me?

  • Check out our private Facebook group for Mamas in Business by clicking here.
  • Follow along on Instagram @lynne.britton
  • Read Becoming Unconsumed now available on Amazon!
  • Join our Unbusy Me membership to support your daily Spiritual Practice and transform your mindset.

What are your expectations of others?

On the Friday of Mother's Day Weekend I did a Facebook Live in my Mamas in Business group. I spoke about all the expectations that we have for our husbands, our kids and others on Mother's Day weekend and other times throughout the year -- our birthday, anniversary, etc.

I gave some straight talk about why the expectations of others have to stop. I know, I know, it goes against the grain.  As wives and Mamas we work hard all day every day. As the story goes, it would be great for our hubbies and kids to just do something for us....or would it? What if we did so much for ourselves that we could lay down expectations about what our families "should" do for us? And what if we stopped worrying so much about what they were doing and we continued to just accept them as they are (whether they give us presents or pick up their dirty socks or not)?

If you stick with me on this topic here, I am going to show you how to ditch these expectations and how to give yourself everything you desire instead of putting that heavy burden on those that love you. 

There has never been a better time to give yourself some self-care than today. You are powerful, you know what fuels you and you know how to make yourself feel good. YES, I agree that it is fantastic when your hubby or kids do something for you, lend a hand around the house, spoil you. I get it. But what is even more valuable is that when you cultivate a practice of self-care so deep, your expectations of others fall away.

Let's look at the practical reasons for dropping expectations of others.

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1. Self-Care is critical for your happiness. You will never have peace if you are continually seeking others to do for you, while you let external circumstances determine your mood. Taking care of your body, mind, and soul means you have plenty of your best self to give your family & the world. Giving yourself love instead of waiting for someone else to do it empowers you and fills you up. When you learn how to love and give to YOU, you no longer seek something or someone to fill the space that only self-care can fill.

Though self-care looks different for everyone, here are some things that I like to do:

  • Prayer or meditation
  • Exercise
  • Cooking a healthy meal
  • Reading or Journaling
  • Taking a long shower or bath
  • A pedicure or manicure
  • A day date with someone special to you
  • Dancing to your favorite playlist

2. The people around you love and care for you. If there is an unspoken "pressure" about your expectations for gifts and pampering and doing, those people that love and care for you are nervous they will disappoint you! Take that burden away from them and let them know you have NO EXPECTATIONS. 

Dropping expectations of others can be empowering for you and give tons of positive energy to your closest relationships. So what do you think? Where can you lay down expectations of others today and do something that fuels you? What are your favorite things to do for self-care?

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Did you like this content? Join our special LIVE event on Tuesday June 12 at 6pm EST "Next Level Necessary" for all Mamas in Business. (Yes replay will be available for those in the group :) Talking about the three biggest things to take you to your next level in your personal AND professional life. Click here to join the group.

 

 

 

Wondering how else you can find me or work with me?

  • Check out our private Facebook group for Mamas in Business by clicking here.
  • Follow along on Instagram @lynne.britton
  • Read Becoming Unconsumed now available on Amazon!
  • Join The Course to rewrite your story and transform your mindset.

XO,

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Is fear of failure preventing you from showing up?

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We are so afraid to fail that we stop showing up.

 

Has this ever happened to you? With something so important to you that the idea of not having "that thing" just puts you in tears?

 

It happens in relationships, with health or weight loss goals and with launching and building a business.

 

It happens when we are trying to get pregnant.

 

It happens when we want to go for a promotion at work.

 

It happens all the stinking time.

 

Here's where fear of failure has come up for me:

Marriage

Motherhood

Postpartum

Writing a book

Starting a business

Navigating relationships

Repairing broken relationships

Repairing broken me

LIFE.

 

I have decided that I will not let fear make my decisions. I won't let fear prevent me from showing up for anything. I will push through the fear of failure.

 

All of us have been in the driver's seat of fear of failure.  Failure isn't a label that we have to wear the rest of our lives. Failing at anything doesn't change our identity. And it's that belief the prevents us from taking a risk. The belief that somehow, if we fail, our identity is marred or changed.

 

Let's get this straight--you are a fucking powerful being. No matter what. No failure will change that. Got it?

 

Who cares if you fail? It could mean a million things or it could mean nothing. But it most definitely does NOT mean you should freeze in place and refuse to keep moving.

 

So what do I choose to do?

Believe in the best possible outcome. About everything. Always.

So many women are afraid of failure that we STOP SHOWING UP. Whether it's a health goal or a professional goal or even improving an important relationship.

It's easier to be afraid than blast through that shit.

I say go for it. Stop being frozen. Keep showing up. THE WORLD NEEDS WHAT YOU HAVE. Failure is a bruise, not a tattoo.

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Did you like this content? Join our special LIVE event on Tuesday June 12 at 6pm EST "Next Level Necessary" for all Mamas in Business. (Yes replay will be available for those in the group :) Talking about the three biggest things to take you to your next level in your personal AND professional life. Click here to join the group.

 

 

 

Wondering how else you can find me or work with me?

  • Check out our private Facebook group for Mamas in Business by clicking here.
  • Follow along on Instagram @lynne.britton
  • Read Becoming Unconsumed now available on Amazon!
  • Join The Course to rewrite your story and transform your mindset.

XO,

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What is Mindset? What are Your Life Rules?

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Happy June! I am so excited because I am putting a June content blast into place this month! Everyday content will stream here and in my facebook group. There will be a different topic each day on all topics Momming, Business & Life.

A word that is being used quite often on all social media outlets these days is "mindset". you might be wondering what "mindset" even is. If you live outside of the success coaching realm or spend limited time in professional or personal development, you might not have any familiarity with this topic... Recently I posted five of #myrules that shape my mindset in my private Facebook Group for Mamas in Business. You can check out that group by clicking here

What are these "rules" that I am talking about and what do they have to do with mindset? These are rules around topics that I have redesigned for myself, replacing society's rules or even rules from my upbringing. You know society's rules I am talking about. Rules about earning money: "it has to be so hard", or rules about marriage: "everyone fights" or even rules about teenage daughters: "they are so difficult!". I have rewritten these rules and countless others for myself on my beliefs on many topics. I have posted about mindset before, talking about my rules and how I have reframed my rules for life around topics such as marriage, momming, career, finances, business development, fear, and just plain old LIFE.

Your rules for life put your mindset into place. What do I mean about that? Let's take this example of fear around money...If you live from a fearful mindset about money, for instance, you are always worried about how you are going to pay your bills instead of expecting abundant experiences for yourself and your family. What snowballs from that is that you are going to have a shitty mindset about work, opportunities that cost money, and needs for your family. Kicking that fear to the curb is the thing that will change your mindset around all things involving money.

If you don't set intentions for rewriting your own rules AND embracing positivity at every turn, you won't have the mindset that will give you the very best life you can have. Regardless of what you do in your working life or personal life, it will serve you well to begin your day with some positivity.

Implementing a practice that includes positivity and gratitude daily has completely changed the fabric of who I am. For the last three to five years I have had this practice in place. Sometimes I am tired and I miss a day (yes, can you believe it, I am human). If I miss a day, so what? Most of the week, I wake up and start with positivity and gratitude. I begin with simple things like "I am thankful for my family. For my home." Then I get more specific about work, and a kitchen full of food and the ability to spend time with my loved ones.

I'm challenging you today to think about how your rules put your mindset into place. If you are living from a fear perspective about anything, your mindset isn't as great as it could be. You are amazing, you are the temperature of love in your home. When you have an empowered mindset, you will have that amazing positivity in your family, your home, and your business.

I hope you have a great day! Think about the places your mindset can be more positive and remember how beautiful, amazing, positive, and valuable on the inside and out you are.

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Did you like this content? Join our special LIVE event on Tuesday June 12 at 6pm EST "Next Level Necessary" for all Mamas in Business. (Yes replay will be available for those in the group :) Talking about the three biggest things to take you to your next level in your personal AND professional life. Click here to join the group.

 

 

 

Wondering how else you can find me or work with me?

  • Check out our private Facebook group for Mamas in Business by clicking here.
  • Follow along on Instagram @lynne.britton
  • Read Becoming Unconsumed now available on Amazon!
  • Join The Course to rewrite your story and transform your mindset.

XO,

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On the Grow

Wow! I can't believe it's been almost six weeks since my last blog entry. It's definitely been a whirlwind month with the Launch of Becoming Unconsumed and the growth of the Grace & Impact Brand. I can't wait to share all the news!

First, we have had a successful launch for Becoming Unconsumed! A Team from across the United States and Canada participated in launching the book, sharing it with their own local communities and now the reviews are popping up on Amazon and Goodreads. I have been so blown away by the positive feedback and the lives that BU has touched. If you haven't picked up your copy yet, you can do so here through Amazon.

Before I get into the details of what's coming so so soon with G&I (cue the excitement & confetti!!), I want to talk about the power of detachment.

You're thinking "what's that?!"

There is so much power in the space between wanting something so badly and then letting the outcome of that "something" go.

That space is called detachment.

And when you get here, you feel empowered, confident, and fearless.

The energy of detachment is powerful.

So what actually does that mean?

Think about something you really want.

And I mean really want.

Could be a change in finances, a development in your business, a job promotion, a change in a relationship. This "thing" you really want, begins with inspired action--you know the kind I mean-- when you are in your bed and can't sleep or in the shower or hear something on the radio--and you HAVE to scramble quick to find a paper and pen (or your notes app on your phone) to take a note and get this amazing idea DOWN because you don't know where it came from but it's AMAZING??

So you begin with that inspired action. (Make the post, make the phone call, write the email, etc. The idea is that you have ACTED on the "thing".)

And then you let the outcome GO. You don't worry if you've done or said the right thing, you don't fret about the response, you just let it G O.

For example: I take inspired action to get my content written down and "living" either online or in my course or in a conversation directly with someone. (this blog post is a good example).

Then I DETACH from the outcome. For example: maybe I think it'd be awesome to pay off XXXX bill, create an idea that provides certain income, etc... but I let whatever it is GO. Meaning I take the inspiration, put it into action, bless it, and LET IT GO. I've done my part and now I rest completely unconsumed by the idea. That is so powerful. To not be wound so tightly about an outcome, to have no fear about whether or not it will happen, that is so powerful.

When you are not consumed with the outcome, you open yourself up to the blessings and possibilities you deserve. You can focus on other things that matter -- your family, your self-care, your community, other work items that fuel you.

So let's recap >>> Detachment is the space between holding so tightly to "something" because "it's" SO PRECIOUS, and letting go because your belief has been built to the place that you know detaching from "it" is going to get it to return. 

It is essentially, and intentionally, operating out of faith instead of fear.

It is choosing to live unconsumed.

It is deciding that you have done your part.

It is leaving fear out of the equation and trusting God and the universe. 

That's what I'm taking about. The invaluable power of detaching from an outcome. It usually means it's going to work out the way you've envisioned. In relationships, business, and money.

Detaching is a powerful process that takes practice and intention. It can contribute to completely changing your mindset. Give it a try and let me know in the comments how it went!

So here's what is coming up next for Grace & Impact....

Even since before the book launch, Grace & Impact has been growing. Beginning at the end of this month, we kick off our first digital course for women! This course is designed for Mamas in Business who KNOW that they have innate talents, skills & gifts and KNOW that the world needs what they have to offer. 

Mamas who are ready to kick that deficit mindset to the curb.

Let me guess.

You're planning to have a great week in family and business. Me, too!

Sunday night you planned to have an AMAZING week.

You even remember thinking something like "hell yes, this week is gonna rock."

Your meals were semi-planned, the kids' calendar was all set and you had designated which times you were going to work on your business.

Then Monday came around.

The kids were difficult to get up and ready for the day.

You forgot to buy your kids' favorite snack at the store (which they reminded you of AGAIN) and your coffee spilled everywhere.

Cut to Friday.

You look over your notes and realize you haven't done anything productive for your business.

You're so annoyed. Again. <Then you feel guilty for being annoyed and even dreaming of taking it to the next level. 😔>

You wonder how you could ever take it to the next level.

Your week hasn't improved and you are tired of this cycle.

Living for the weekend, feeling half-underwater, never getting "it all" done, watching everyone else take the next steps in their business and have things straight at home.

I mean you did everything you knew to do.

You put some posts up, semi-planned a big online sale and even generated some leads.

But then nothing panned out and you are scratching your head wondering how this happens every single week.

Wondering how I know?

Because I used to be you.

I would plan for every next step, write it all down, even put specifics on my calendar.

Then I would become consumed within the week (completely unable to DETACH) and find myself waking up to another weekend feeling bad that I didn't take any massive action in my business.

I would be annoyed and decide "forget it, it's not going to work out."

Then I realized it wasn't my business and it wasn't my planning.

It was something waaayyyyy deeper.

So I made one major change and things stared flowing easily, with no frustration, no interruptions to my family and no more overwhelm and guilt. You see, it isn't business strategy you're missing, it's the deep work needed to uplevel EVERYTHING. Something us Mamas need more than anyone.

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After a decade of designing and leading live and online courses, I've launched my very first digital course for Mamas in Business, the Mindset & Breakthrough Academy. I'm the expert at upleveling your mindset and business, no matter what your circumstance is.

If you are a Mama who:
✨knows her tremendous value
✨knows she has a business or service that other people NEED in their lives
✨wants to make major shifts and take massive action to take things to the next level.....
.....you belong in this course!

Doors for enrollment are open and I'd love to have you.

What's included:
✨6+ hours of live video modules (can't make the live time? Don't worry it will be on replay!)
✨Guided Workbooks and action steps for each module to radically uplevel every area of your life
✨Exclusive course group with like-minded women for support
✨Guided mindset video
✨Unlimited support from me in the group!
✨Lifetime access to the course!

Questions or more information? Click below for FAQ's and more info!

Choosing Joy Today!

Today I choose joy. And I think you should, too. Why? Because life is good!! 🌸

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When our joy is dependent on external circumstance, we limit our capacity to LIVE. When you limit your beliefs about yourself, when you limit your beliefs about ending the daily struggle, you limit your ability to make an impact on those around you---> ultimately limiting the ability to do WELL for yourself and others.🌸

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Create your own lane and stay there! There is a huge tendency to look at what other people around you are doing and say "oh I should be doing that." I want to remind you to stop comparing. YOU were created as the writer of your story . God chose YOU to be the wife, mom, sister, fried, influencer that you are. No one can fill your shoes or your purpose! 🌸

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When you change your mindset and remind yourself of your undeniable VALUE to the world, you can finally stop comparing and striving. So choose JOY today. I believe in you! 🌸

 

Here's my Call to Action for today:

What are five things you can think of RIGHT NOW that you are grateful for? Write them down! What is one situation that you have been feeling less than POSITIVE about that you can change your perspective about RIGHT NOW? Write it down and decide NOW to change your thinking about it. Find the "silver lining"! Expect positivity and abundance. You have nothing at all to lose by choosing positive expectation over dread.

I can't wait to hear how you do! 

All my belief,

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Too Much and Never Enough

For all the women who feel like they are simultaneously too much and never enough, I want to say I hear you! I also want to call BS on that . You are exactly enough and your "too much" and "never enough" are measured by false ideals, which exist for no one. You are perfect as you are.

 

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There has never been a better Wife, Mom, Sister, Friend, Colleague. Want to know why? Because the entire universe conspired at the hand of God to create YOU. Because He has had a perfect plan for you from long before you were even born. So stop judging yourself. Stop comparing your "behind the scenes" to others' "highlight reels". Repeat after me: "I am enough." Now say it ten more times. You are enough. You've always been enough.

 

While I wrote my book, Becoming Unconsumed, some parts of it came pouring out of me. There were many moments, nights, mornings and random times that I felt God was writing that book through me. Things just flowed so naturally that I didn't even have time to stop and think if any of it made sense. There were also moments (ok, weeks which turned into months) where I put the entire project aside because I was afraid of what people would think. Yes, you read that right. Me, a woman who spends her free time encouraging as many people as possible to be empowered, take off the mask and live vulnerably, I was afraid to publish my book.

 

Then I remembered all the things that I say to you and my daughters. You are enough. I am enough. Be vulnerable. Share with others. Be empowered. Reset your mindset. Remember how valuable you are.

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And my mindset shifted. My project was no longer about me but rather what even a portion of my message could do for someone else who needed God's word, who needed a message of positivity in our all-consuming world.

 

Today I want to encourage you--before you stop short of sharing your unique brand of magic with the world---don't. Don't stop. Don't keep your mask on. Be authentic and remember--you ARE ENOUGH. So much and so little--just perfect the way God made you.


For more information on Becoming Unconsumed: a Devotional for Every Woman Struggling in Today's All-Consuming World, click here.

A Case of the Mondays

Happy Monday friends. This is a quickie blog post because it's been on my mind the past few Mondays and I wanted to share in hopes that more of you would have MORE joy this week.

Is your mood dependent on outside circumstances?? As in -- your situation defining how you feel? I get it, I hear you. I used to wake up on a Monday completely dreading the Work Week. The morning hustle to get everyone and myself out of the house. With everything we need for the day. On time. With no crying. The list of things that went undone on the weekend. I hated it. To be honest, I'm feeling a little sick recalling those stressful times. So what happened? I changed my perspective and defined a new Monday. I kicked out the Deficit Mindset and replaced it with Abundant Mindset.

 

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We are programmed by society and social media, by other people's mindset. We are programmed to hate M-F and live for the weekend. Why should we only have joy two days per week? I call bs on that. I want to live with joy daily. Don't you?

 

Like exercising, resetting your mindset is working a muscle. Lifting weights at first is hard. You're using muscles in a new way that leaves you sore and tired. Resetting your mindset takes work, too, and can have a wildly powerful impact on your daily life. When you train yourself to focus on positive instead of allowing your circumstances to define your mood, you can feel so much more FREE. Free to enjoy each day. FREE to set boundaries on negativity. FREE to be.

 

Today I challenge you to choose your joy. Redefine your M-F. Maybe your circumstances can't change, by your mindset can. Your circumstances don't have to define your JOY. You can choose your joy right now!

What's Your Value?

Hello, beautiful! It's a snowy day here in Western Massachusetts, and although many people are tired of the snow, I am loving watching it fly as I sit here with my coffee and write!

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If it sounds like I'm repeating myself lately, I probably am. I am just completely sold out on women knowing and living their true purpose and value in this world. Last week I wrote about Authenticity and even spoke about it on The Grace and Impact Podcast. Listen here if you're interested. 

This week the topics of Authenticity, Living Your Purpose and Writing Your OWN Story are still on my mind. Why? First of all because I have lived it. I have lived trying to wear an identity that I "thought" was right for me. Working long hours while I felt completely torn from family time with my husband and three small daughters. I have lived conflicted over phenomenal career success and family obligations.

I have seen so many women--family and friends--get way too comfortable with a deficit mindset. Living the idea that there's never enough time, money or patience. Giving all we have--body, soul + mind--to our husbands, kids and work. And never, ever giving to ourselves.  I have learned that refusing to take care of yourself ultimately translates into neglecting to take care of your family and the world. Haven't you heard the saying "you can't pour from an empty cup"? Well, yeah...

 

About two years ago I stopped this. I quit a six figure job, I refocused my mindset on family and myself and a huge shift took place. There's a difference between giving selflessly/knowing your own value and being a complete martyr. Sorry if this is harsh, but it's the truth. Have you been there?

 

The new-mommy phase is a tough one. Especially when your days are filled with little sleep and lots of hormones. Figuring out work-life balance is tricky. And fitting in time to value and nurture your marriage is trickier still. And if that isn't enough, you have to remember to take care of yourself? Next to impossible, right? I'm here today to tell you it CAN be done. And done well.  

 

I want to remind you that you ARE enough. You are the perfect version of YOU. So stop hustling so hard to fit it all in and take some time to listen to your inner voice. If you are a praying person or a meditating person, no matter what your style of peace is, embrace it and listen. You have been designed for a beautiful purpose. You are the Mom and Wife God chose. You are the sister, daughter, friend, perfect person that God designed for this situation in you life. 

 

 

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Today is the day you stop playing small, stop living in a deficit mindset and embrace your amazing value! The world needs what only YOU can provide. Like I tell my daughters (and believe it with every ounce of my being): you have absolute MAGIC inside of you. It is your job to share it, to make a difference in someone else's life, to go out there and change this world. But the change has to begin inside of you, as you shift your mindset, love yourself & fuel yourself.

 

Only then will you have the energy, mindset, and desire to share all of who YOU are with your family and this world. I am cheering you on to incredible success.

Much love,

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In alignment with my commitment to serve others, click here to find the link to my free eBook Mindset Reset, which is a 21 day resource outlining my 5 keys to living an emPOWERed day everyday.

Additionally, my book, Becoming Unconsumed, a devotional for every woman struggling in today's all-consuming world, is being released May 15 and is truly a place for women to stop saying "yes" to the superficial demands of this world and start embracing the beautiful life you already live. To change your mindset and know the ultimate value that already resides inside of you. We have opened up a few additional spots for participation on the launch team! Click here for more information.

Authenticity

Have you ever thought about the concept of authenticity? With it often comes the discomfort of vulnerability if removing the many masks we wear out in public, at work, in relationships, on social media. I want you to think about this for a minute -- what makes you YOU?

You have a different story, path and purpose than anyone else in this entire world. Isn't that so powerful?! Lots of people exist daily on this earth to fulfill some society-fueled path that is often filled with comparison, negativity and doubt. But I know that's not what God has planned for you. No way. You can't live your purpose while you're busy trying to live someone else's. 

Authenticity for me has meant taking a hard look at myself, my goals, my actions and getting real about what I was doing. And getting real about what I needed to change to live the life I envisioned. is it quick work? Absolutely not. But it is totally worth it and small steps add up to real change quickly. Before I knew it, I was living the life I dreamed about.

When you make a conscious choice to keep the mask off and be real with yourself and others, big shifts occur. You open yourself to what the universe has for you in a new way, you remove the block from all the blessings. You stop standing in the way of God's plan for your life. So what are you waiting for? Stop resisting and surrender to the call to be authentic, vulnerable, remove the mask and live your best life. 

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What does "take off the mask" mean? Getting honest with yourself about your goals, your timeline and your life.

  • What do you want to be doing?
  • What do you NOT want to be doing?
  • How are your daily actions aligning (or not) with your short and long-term goals

There's no more time to be wasted on trying to live out someone else's purpose or trying to fit someone else's plan onto your life. Today I challenge you to write down one personal, professional or financial goal and a deadline to make it happen. Being authentic means being honest with ourselves and aligning our actions and goals.

 

I believe in you SO much and am cheering for your success,

Lynne

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The Truth About Entrepreneurship in 2018 and Beyond

Mindset matters.

I say this a lot. And mindset isn't just important, mindset is everything. It defines who you are, what ideals you're aligning yourself with and it can literally propel you in one direction over another. And just as mindset can propel you positively, it can have the adverse effect.

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So, who is today's blog post for? It's for you if--you've opened (or are considering opening) a business. It could be anything from a clothing boutique, a skin care line, health and wellness to finance, coaching, education, the list goes on. You probably have the best (product/service/trade) around! I believe in you! And I love your enthusiasm. And it's because I believe in you that today I am going to share some truths about successful business building, what not to do and what TO DO in order to build relationships and customers for a long time. You see, building a business is a marathon, not a sprint, and if you're not thinking long term relationships for long term success, your mindset is not yet where it should be. So let's get it there!

If you're frustrated because you thought you'd open a business and the sales would just flood in, I hear ya. Excitement can wane when the realization of work sets in. Maybe you've cultivated a fantastic skill or product. Perhaps you've got the perfect location or target market for a boutique or store front. Maybe your business partner/coach/recruiter has had incredible success and knows the same can happen for you. Regardless of the type of business or situation, you don't have to be frustrated but you should take some of this advice if you want to get serious about your business.
 

Here are some basics:

1. People don't want to be sold. 

When I am looking to buy something, I seek a few sources. A. Do I have someone in my network of friends and family who is in this business of the product I am looking for? I choose to do business with people I have relationships with and support what they are doing. B. Amazon Prime. If I can get it on Amazon Prime and it is not something that I can purchase from a small business, I do it. I love Amazon Prime, don't you?

2. People care More about you than what you're selling.

Your friends and family are your friends and family because they love you. They don't necessary love that you have potentially turned your entire digital and in-person existence into a product soapbox. You cannot build your business on family and friends alone. Referrals? Absolutely! But a sustainable business that will support your goals and dreams financially? No way.

3. No one is following you because of your product (unless they are your friend, family or a business partner.)

(See #2 above!) I don't want this to come off the wrong way, but how do you know I NEED your product? Oh, that's right, you don't. I just want to illustrate for a moment the point that throwing a photo up on social media isn't going to monetize your business. Pictures don't equal sales. Flooding my DM doesn't equal sales. (PSA - If you are a team builder or business builder of any kind, please stop encouraging your team to send DMs to random people that they don't know! ) Even having beautiful photography won't equal sales. Building relationships, offering above and beyond what your bottom line is, that will convert me from a follower to a customer.

Here are three things TO BUILD AND MAINTAIN as you build your business:

1. Authenticity

Get clear on the reasons you opened your business in the first place, your "why". This will be extremely helpful when the original excitement for your business starts to wane, when there are people who express doubt or objection over your business. If you can get clear on your authentic purpose, you will be able to share it with others.

2. Relationships  

How are you connecting with others? Random direct messages is not a connection. Real conversations about real topics that matter are the things that create relationships. You can definitely use social media and digital communication to do this, but it cannot be a "copy and paste" or one-size-fits-all-message. If you don't know or care about the people you are communicating with, that message will come across loud and clear.

3. Service for others  

Again, why are you in business? If you are not willing to serve others, chances are your business won't last long. I remember once I followed someone on Instagram that I admired for her tenacity with health, wellness, and positive energy. Once she put a recipe on her Instagram story and it seemed like something my kids would LOVE. She told a few of the ingredients, but not all. When I asked about the remaining ingredients, she replied that she couldn't tell me, but they were in her cookbook that I could BUY. I immediately unfollowed her. That type of gatekeeper-info-practice is just not what I align with. I am in the business of giving and serving others. Free content is where it is at! We live in an age where there is tons of valuable content available for FREE to consume. Be a part of positive provision and you will not go wrong. You will actually build more relationships by giving MORE.

 

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Do you know that you can actually leverage systems to work for you so that you can stop being frustrated in the progress of your business? Not saying it won't take hard work, but you will be able to remove some of the frustration as you build by doing the three "dos" at the end of my message today and leveraging some key systems for success. Building a profitable side business can be the best thing you've ever decided on, when you get clear on what will make you successful. 
 

Best wishes for success in your business! Give the ideas above a try to keep focused, build relationships and serve others. Cheering you on! -- Lynne

 

Self-Love Club. Membership YOU.

Self image (body and soul!) is so important when you are a woman of any age. Membership in the #selfloveclub is nonnegotiable. But it's often challenging for women to get to this place. Living in a society of selfies, filters and comparison, it's hard to get out of the "shoulding" and "striving" mindset. It's critical for us all to be kind to ourselves and others around this topic.

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Let me just say for a minute that this is especially important when you are a mother of daughters. My kids really have never heard me talk about my weight or size. And no, it's not because I'm already a certain size. It's because I decided a long time ago that I am the primary woman they will form their images of self-acceptance on. And I don't ever want them to look in a mirror and think "too skinny, too fat." In fact we do not EVER use the S or F words in this house. Ever. We never look at body parts and wish out loud "I wish my X looked this way or that way." Never.

From a very early age I have taught my girls "healthy" as the key word. They know that Mom and Dad exercise to stay healthy, not to reach a goal weight. They see me lift weights and know the goal is strong. Never skinny. In fact, about five years ago when I rode my bike daily and never lifted weights, I was the lowest weight I'd been since pre-pregnancy numero uno. And I didn't like it. I had no strength.

You see, I personally prefer murves. Muscles + curves. That's when I feel best. Because for me, feeling strong is important. So taking care of my body + soul + mind is a package deal. Strong body, strong mind, get it??

My point here is that self-love and acceptance are inside jobs. No one can get you there but you. In an age of distraction and comparison, it's easy to jump to "I wish I looked like...." or "I wish I was...." So I'm here today to discourage anything that isn't self-love and acceptance. Be the person God made YOU and only you to be. Stop comparing and start reminding yourself how ENOUGH you already are. If you are recently pregnant or postpartum, please be kind to yourself. You made a human! That's some superhero stuff right there. Let your body and mind heal from that experience and be gentle with the messages you are giving yourself. If you didn't read my previous post on prenatal/postpartum anxiety and getting my mind and body healthy again, feel free to click here

Starvation and depletion diets don't work. Hours of endless cardio and weight lifting don't work. Size and a number on the scale do not matter. They DO NOT MATTER. Hear me out -- healthy matters. If getting healthy equals releasing some weight for you, OK. But don't get extreme. Be happy with who you are, be gentle with your soul and practice self-love. Because it is a practice. A daily practice of peace, acceptance and kindness.

I hope you are in the #selfloveclub today and everyday from now on.

A special club where membership depends on YOU loving YOU. Want to start feeling better today? Truly better and truly loving yourself? Here's my simple call to action -- write down three great qualities about yourself and turn them into affirmations. Example: I am a hard worker. --> I am a valuable hard worker who contributes to this world. 

Can't wait to hear how you do.

Much Love,

Lynne

 

News vs. The Good News

As a mom and teacher I have found myself consumed with the news on occasion. I admit that I have found myself fearful for several different reasons at different points over the years. And I have heard that fear from my own children. However, as a Christian, I have intentionally had to remind myself that fear is not going to run my house. I have quietly said it to myself, I have talked about it with my husband and we have talked about it with our girls. Fear has no place at our table. For a spirit of fear does not come from God, but a spirit of power and love and a sound mind (2 Timothy 1:7).

 

How often are we consumed with the world instead of The Word? If we let the news of the day undo what we know about the Good News of Jesus, we are not being the faithful people we claim to be. Yes, we are human, we question, we falter. I've been thinking a lot lately about how it could be possible to serve others while living in a faith-deficit. Is it possible? I've come to the personal conclusion that it isn't possible and I can't.

 

Faith and fear cannot occupy the same space so one of the two has to go. I'm choosing to kick out the fear. Sometimes the magnitude of what God did for us through Jesus is too much to take in. So we shut down, refusing to see how it has relevance in 2018 and we begin try to solve things that need faith over fear.   

 

What I've realized is that if I want to continue to give my best self to others, I cannot let fear keep me from doing anything. Whether it is personal or professional. I have to step over, around or through any and all obstacles that cause me to have fear and distraction. For faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the evidence of things unseen. (Hebrews 11:1)

 

What is something that is holding you back today? What are you afraid of? How can you choose Faith over fear, empower yourself and those around you and serve others? In essence, you will be serving yourself and even God in the process when you choose Faith instead. 

 

I'm cheering you on.  

~Lynne

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Building Yourself so you can Build Others -- EmPOWERed

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If we're not in the business of encouragement, we're in the wrong business. Sometimes we have a tough time getting out of our own way and seeing what others need. Being "others minded" is tough. It's especially tough when we have our own stress and pain. How do we find peace in the pain? It begins with an intentional mindset makeover. Which then translates to heart + behavior changes.

 

If you're between the ages of 25 and 44, chances are you are raising a family, managing choices about a career inside or outside the home (or both), navigating financial commitments, the emotions that run fast and deep when married and raising a family, and much more! That's a lot to think about! Maybe you even want to shut down your thoughts about it. But I want to stop you right there.

 

I want to remind you that you ARE equipped. You CAN do this day and everyday. God chose you to be that Wife, that Mama, that friend, that business owner because you are the one He designed for that purpose. If you step out of your own way a little bit today and trust that God has a tremendous purpose for you, you'll be able to free up your heart and mind to encourage someone around you who NEEDS a positive message!

 

You're probably thinking "ok Lynne, sounds great, but you don't know my situation. You can't possibly think I can stop worrying about X." You're right, I don't know your situation. And maybe it is heart-wrenching and terrible. I'm sorry for your pain. But I know that if you start with gratitude, you can step through the pain and find some positivity. And peace. Especially peace.

 

So here's my five step recommendation for getting out of your way and Becoming that emPOWERed Encourager I know you are:

  1. Prayer / Positivity: if you are someone who prays, then start your day in the Word, and pray specifically for the needs of those around you. If you are NOT a prayer, then get out a pen and paper and write down a list of at least ten things you are grateful for right now!
  2. Organization: You might have a ton to do today, but if you can shift your focus to the most important things, you will have more success than being "spread too thin." My recommendation is FIVE, yes only FIVE, things.
  3. Workout / Wellness: You might have a gym membership or maybe not. Home equipment? If not, no problem. The goal here is to meet e your body for ten or more focused moments per day. It gets your heart pumping and mind working. And you'll be so glad you did!
  4. Everything else: when you freaked out earlier because I said "only five things", this is the place that those "other items" can go. Kids' schedule? Finish your taxes? Book your babysitter? All those items that didn't make it onto the top 5 go here.
  5. Reminders: Positive affirmations should be a non-negotiable part of your day. If you can't remind yourself how amazing you are, who will? You are amazing! You are important. You are valuable. You are smart. Write down some of your favorite affirmations and put them where you'll see them (bathroom mirror, car, kitchen, etc.)

 

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Once you have taken a little time to emPOWER yourself, you'll be ready to be an encourager for someone who needs it. I believe in you. Go ahead, take that first step! Can't wait to hear your results.

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Balance is a Perception

Balance is a perception. You might be a SAHM (which is actually a work at home Mama, because as we know, that's a pretty tough job!) and wish you had more adult time. You might be a work-out-of-the-home Mom and wish you could be home all day with your babies. Or you might be building a profitable side business to give your family more choices. Whatever your many roles, balance is a major topic for us ladies, am I right? Some days you might feel like you've got it all together and on others, not so much? If this is you, keep reading.

 

I am a Wife and Mama who does not have perfect balance but knows what I need to do to fuel my body + mind + spirit, daily. It's all about perception. I focus on the moments and I create balance where and when it is needed.

 

What are you focusing on today? What are the things that fuel you? Get in alignment with your heart + soul, write down your vision for your life and your perception will change. You can be in control of your day and perception by putting daily INTENTION in place. Especially if you are trying to keep track of your family schedule, work, school or business building.

 

I have cultivated a daily practice beginning with vision and intention that I call my POWER days.  Beginning everyday with gratitude, organization, and prioritizing can get you where you need to be!! I believe in you and know you can achieve the balance you seek. Believe in yourself and you, too, will get it done! Let me know if you need support!

 

Until next time!  

-~Lynne

 

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Fellowship

Be the light that shines clear for other people. Be the positive. ✨

 

Over the past two weeks I have spoken with some friends --married, moms, single with no kids, engaged--about how we run our lives and even how we raise our kids. And there was a thread of guilt shared about the frequency with which we attend church. As in "am I a good Christian if I don't go to church/haven't had my kids baptized/raise them in a church?" Um, yes, you are a PHENOMENAL woman AND mother. Today one of my kids doesn't feel so hot and so we aren't going to church. Am I going to mope around and wring my hands about being a bad personal because I'm not in church today? No way.

 

Fellowship. It isn't just found in the walls of our Sunday church. It is found in the laughter, tears, moments with those whom God puts into our lives. If we don't stop to intentionally notice who those people are, we will miss out on the point of life. To love, and give love. To share in life's joys and disappointments. To praise God together through it all.

 

I personally started to feel guilty when I felt my ministry expanded beyond the walls of my "church home". Let's look at that for a minute. Guilty. A feeling that doesn't come from God at all. A part of fear that only comes from the enemy when we ARE heading in the right direction. I started to read my fear like this a few years ago, when I was fueling up for the birthing of my book, which will be published in a few short months. Filling my heart and souls with other books......When I started saying a confident "no" to requests for my ministry at church because I knew God put it on my heart to minister to the women, old and young, of this world, through other experiences outside of Trinity, my book and my work on grace & Impact. I suddenly realized that fellowship is not about one building. Or one group of people. It's about all His people. The ones He puts in your path. And sometimes those ministry, human moments happen in your living room, over the phone, in a coffee shop, or at work.

 

Distraction. Division. Denial.

These three things become major roadblocks in our journey to remain in peace. These things can ruin an otherwise wonderful life.

 

When things get "busy", the Overwhelm can take over. Hearts and mind race. Comparison joins the party. And then it's downhill from there. Reject the anxiety that threatens to steal joy from you and your family.

 

Today I encourage you to find the peace in the pace. Focus on the people. The moments. The present. Begin each day by focusing on your inner peace rather than the outside frenzy. And stop judging yourself. There is no ruler of "good Christian" that is measured by frequency of visits to a building.

Anxiety struggles no more

Lots of people ask me how I have energy to get it all done. To get up early, have my prayer time, workout and get organized and just get the day done as a working Wife & Mama of three. It wasn't always like this.

 

I used to be completely consumed. With everything. A combination of unhealthy habits (no exercise, bad food and drink habits), undiagnosed prenatal/postpartum anxiety, hormonal stress, sleepless nights with newborns, "finding a way, making a way" to pay bills, fitting in time for date nights which didn't happen for years, the list goes on. 

 

We had our first two babies 22 months apart. That took a toll on my body, soul and mind that I did not anticipate. For the first many months of being a Mama Bear to two under two, I didn't have a name for it. But at about seven months post partum, I rounded up all my courage despite the very negative social stigma surrounding the topic, and said these words out loud to my primary care physician: "post partum depression." And do you know what he did? He left the room and returned with a pamphlet on PMS. I was so embarrassed. And ashamed. I never spoke of this topic again and I fought to keep the darkness of my anxiety and hormonal imbalance buried deep down. (This was not the right choice, I know this, but it's what I did to survive.) After all, I thought I was crazy and what did I know. This doctors office visit is one that has burned into my memory.

 

I'm going to spare you the details of the following months and years of working through this dark time. I will say that I never received formal help for my postpartum anxiety (until I was postpartum for baby #3), and then suffered prenatal anxiety with baby #3, four years later. But this time around I had healthier habits. I ate right and was always "on the go", living an active life because we had a six year old and four year old. 

 

But I was terrified that what had happened with postpartum the first two times would happen again. At this time my relationship with God was growing and I had to trust that something bigger than me was in control. It took a lot of prayer-filled nights and mornings, but somehow, someway, I averted the same major postpartum anxiety that I had suffered with my first two.

 

I'm not saying my anxiety was eliminated completely, because it absolutely was not. BUT, as a result of my healthy habits, prayer-life and focus, it wasn't as intense.

 

When baby #3 was 7 months old, I knew it was time to get serious about healthy habits on a regular basis so I could be the best me for my family. I began practicing yoga, which I loved. It was the first time in my mom-life (almost 7 years!) that I wasn't consumed with planning, worry, schedules, "to do"s. 

I knew I needed to commit to a more healthy lifestyle if I was going to get around the major anxiety and blues I had experienced as a new Mama, the STRUGGLE that so many Mamas face. I began a regular routine of physical fitness and revamped my nutrition. I've done the "sugar free" thing before it was a fad, keto, paleo, clean eating, you name it. Since 2010, my eating has been pretty much on point. No matter how I ate though, I still lacked nutrients, still had anxiety and struggled through the day with caffeine as my crutch, always trying to "get it all done". Don't we do that--try to cram SO MUCH in, often forgetting to take care of ourselves?

 

About two years ago, I wanted to take a serious look at my nutrition, balance and just feeling better for myself and family. Let me say that no one would have ever looked at me after a baby and said "she needs to lose weight", however, skinny does not = healthy! I was so depleted of energy, nutrients and had no muscle. The last two years of adding simple  supplements to my daily routine of healthy eating has been amazing. I have never felt better. Initially I lost and have kept off ten pounds. In their place I have added lean muscle mass. I'm 40 and have more energy than most 20-somethings. I work out almost daily and have sustained energy for my family and friends. Change your habits, design your life!

 

Today I'm finally sharing that I have been partnered with an amazing health and wellness company for two years. After leaving my successful network marketing business 13 years ago, I swore I would never begin another one, but my "Whole Self Project" has enabled me to build something meaningful, complete a book (publishing mid 2018), build a profitable side-business (I'm a teacher by day) and revamp my health. What we put IN our body is more important than the exercises we do or the ways we try to starve ourselves to lose weight.

 

Sometimes the transformation is physical + mental. So why am I telling you this? Because if I can do it, then so can you! 💕

Collaboration over Competition

Hey friends! I am so glad I wrote this post over the last week since I am pretty sick today. Check it out below.

I have been thinking a lot lately about how competitive certain small businesses are. And I never understood it until recently. My husband owns a brewery and, let me tell you, the brewing industry is the most collaborative and collegial industry that I have ever known. These individuals and organizations encourage one another, brew together and even talk positively with their customers about their "competitors", encouraging them to go and try the other guy's product! You see, in the brewing industry, everyone knows there is no such thing as the end all, be all "best beer". OK, maybe you have a favorite, but don't miss the point. The collaboration and collegiality among brewers is second to none. Other industries, take note. 

I have worked in corporate, network marketing and education. I have been an entrepreneur, an employee, a boss. (I say "boss" because until you really learn how and what a leader is, all you are is a boss. And, yes, I admit I have filled that role.) All industries I have been in -- super competitive. Whether it is for the promotion, the product, the customer, the "center stage of expertise", the competition is exhausting. The tenor around people vying for the top spots in any company or industry can be maddening, causing many individuals to turn away. The common denominators of all of this competition = ego + insecurity. I want to encourage you today to set down ego and, especially, insecurity and think about how you can serve others. 

For unless our position comes from a position of servant leadership, we will never truly be successful. So what is servant leadership? This is leading by example. Doing for others around you what they may not be able to do for themselves. Stepping out of yourself and into someone else by doing something positive for them. It works in real life and it works in business.  Think about who in your same industry you can collaborate with today, to benefit that person, your target market/customers/students/kids/etc instead of just benefiting you.

The world and your heart will be a much better place. Have grace and make an impact today.

Cheering for you,

Lynne

Today is the day!

Hey all! Today is a snowy day in western Massachusetts and I cannot believe I haven't written a blog post since my birthday in November. 

I have been busy finishing my book, becoming Unconsumed, as well as finishing my eBook on taking your Power back. Not to mention regular work, momlife, my role at my husband's brewery, and everything else in the day-to-day of life.

No, I am not any different than you. I am not superwoman, though I do think every woman IS indeed a Superwoman in her own life. I am just organized. I am not perfectly organized everyday, in fact I kicked the notion of "perfect" to the curb several years ago. I let go of comparison, judgment and opinions. I got into gratitude and got out of despair. And you can do the same thing. 

Since I have been focused a lot on my two books over the last few months, I have been super focused on women taking back their power. Some have asked me privately, "what does this mean, Lynne?" The answer is simple really.

Many people walk through their day with their "power" given away to every situation. So if something goes wrong, or not as planned, their entire day falls apart. Keeping your power means remembering where it comes from in the first place. Being intentional about your day, your week, your life. Sure, things are going to happen that you haven't planned for, but if you have stored up enough faith, right mindset and attitude, these happenings will not tear your world apart.

I challenge you today to get into gratitude, make a list of all your are grateful for, and begin taking your power back. If anything other than God is your source, you will be disappointed and powerless. And that is not His best for you!

I believe in you!

Lynne