On the Friday of Mother's Day Weekend I did a Facebook Live in my Mamas in Business group. I spoke about all the expectations that we have for our husbands, our kids and others on Mother's Day weekend and other times throughout the year -- our birthday, anniversary, etc.
I gave some straight talk about why the expectations of others have to stop. I know, I know, it goes against the grain. As wives and Mamas we work hard all day every day. As the story goes, it would be great for our hubbies and kids to just do something for us....or would it? What if we did so much for ourselves that we could lay down expectations about what our families "should" do for us? And what if we stopped worrying so much about what they were doing and we continued to just accept them as they are (whether they give us presents or pick up their dirty socks or not)?
If you stick with me on this topic here, I am going to show you how to ditch these expectations and how to give yourself everything you desire instead of putting that heavy burden on those that love you.
There has never been a better time to give yourself some self-care than today. You are powerful, you know what fuels you and you know how to make yourself feel good. YES, I agree that it is fantastic when your hubby or kids do something for you, lend a hand around the house, spoil you. I get it. But what is even more valuable is that when you cultivate a practice of self-care so deep, your expectations of others fall away.
Let's look at the practical reasons for dropping expectations of others.
1. Self-Care is critical for your happiness. You will never have peace if you are continually seeking others to do for you, while you let external circumstances determine your mood. Taking care of your body, mind, and soul means you have plenty of your best self to give your family & the world. Giving yourself love instead of waiting for someone else to do it empowers you and fills you up. When you learn how to love and give to YOU, you no longer seek something or someone to fill the space that only self-care can fill.
Though self-care looks different for everyone, here are some things that I like to do:
- Prayer or meditation
- Cooking a healthy meal
- Reading or Journaling
- Taking a long shower or bath
- A pedicure or manicure
- A day date with someone special to you
- Dancing to your favorite playlist
2. The people around you love and care for you. If there is an unspoken "pressure" about your expectations for gifts and pampering and doing, those people that love and care for you are nervous they will disappoint you! Take that burden away from them and let them know you have NO EXPECTATIONS.
Dropping expectations of others can be empowering for you and give tons of positive energy to your closest relationships. So what do you think? Where can you lay down expectations of others today and do something that fuels you? What are your favorite things to do for self-care?
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